Sunday, November 9, 2008

Trevor and Burgundy are engaged!

Trevor and Burgundy were officially engaged this past Friday night at our cabin! You can read all about it at their new blog site http://www.burgsandtrev.blogspot.com/ The big date is February 12th in the Bountiful Temple. We are very excited to have Burgs join our family! The family is really starting to grow.

Monday, November 3, 2008

One Month Today!

We celebrated Lexi's one month anniversay of arriving here in Utah to join our family. A great reason for Lexi and Derek to celebrate with an ice cream cake from DQ :)

The family keeps growing

It was FUN to have everyone home for Halloween weekend. Left to Right - Trevor and his girlfriend Burgundy, Ryan and his wife Ashlie, Shea holding "Jack", Lexi, and Derek.

Pumpkin Carving


Lexi was proud of the first pumpkin she had carved. Halloween is a new holiday for her to experience.

First Date


Lexi went on her first date to the Harvest Dance at Viewmont High School with Trevor Evans who is a good friend with Derek. It was just before Halloween and they dressed up as Pirates. She was a little nervous because of the language barrier but they had a great time. She was all smiles when she got back that night!

A Schnoodle joins the family!

Lexi is holding her new dog she named Jack. He is a Schnoodle which is a cross between a Schnauzer and a Poodle. He's 8 weeks old and a BIG surprise given to Lexi by her Sisters Shea and Ashlie.

Lexi and Alisha on ATV's for the first time!


We showed Lexi and her friend Alisha how to ride ATV's. Lexi had never been on an ATV before. She was quite nervous at first but learned how to ride it by herself before long!

Lexi and Alisha at the cabin

Lexi invited Alisha to spend the night at our cabin. Alisha was her best friend from Sumy Ukraine where they shared a room in the same orphanage for over 5 years. Alisha has been adopted by a family in SLC a year ago. They have really enjoyed seeing each other again after being apart for a year and a half.

The new look!

Lexi decided to get her hair cut and colored the first week home. This picture was taken right after the haircut. She was very happy the way it turned out.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

We made it home!




Our trip home from Kiev to SLC was successful! Here's a picture of Lexi on the 10 hour flight from Kiev to JFK. Once there we passed through customs and immigration. Once we landed in New York City, Lexi automatically becomes a US Citizen. They had to do a finger print and have her sign a document and then we rushed to get our bags checked back in to our connecting flight to SLC.

The top picture is the welcome home banner our kids put together for Lexi :)

The middle picture is a great shot of all of our kids! Left to right - Derek, Ryan, Ashlie (Ryan's wife), Lexi, Shea, Trevor, and Burgundy (Trevor's girlfriend)
It's great to all be back together again. We're really looking forward to having Lexi join our family. Thanks to everyone for your kind messages and support along the way. It's been a terrific journey.


Sunday, October 5, 2008

Packing our bags!

We had a nice visit with Vladimir and his wife Valeria tonight in our apartment. They stopped by to say "goodbye" since we are leaving for home first thing in the morning. This is a picture of Valeria, Lexi, Vladimir and Natalie. Vladimir and Natalie have been wonderful people to work with through the adoption process. They really care about the children and work hard to make sure you are well taken care of and everything goes smoothly with all aspects of the adoption. We are very grateful for their efforts.

The next blog entry should be from home! :) We are schedule to arrive back in SLC Monday night around 7:15 pm on Delta airlines.

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Bowling in Kiev





We found a really nice bowling alley in Kiev this afternoon and took her bowling for the second time in her life. Apparently she want bowling one time while visiting a family in France a few years ago. She did very well considering she's really not been exposed much to it. You pay for bowling by the hour here so everyone gets two of the same ball so they can hurry and throw the second ball before your first ball comes back to get more bowling completed :) I wondered why there were so many balls on the rack at first but I quickly learned the reason. The cost was a little over $5 per hour per person. That's a fair price but it's considered a luxury here because that is very expensive for the average person.

Museum of the Great Patriotic War




The National Museum of the History of the Great Patriotic War of 1941-1945 is a memorial complex commemorating the Great Patriotic War located in the southern outskirts of the Pechersk district of Kiev on the hills on the right-bank of the Dnieper River.

It is one of the largest museums in Ukraine (over 300 thousand exhibits) centered around the 205 ft. tall Motherland statue, which has become one of the best recognized landmarks of Kiev.

Lexi borrowed Natalie's sunglasses for this fun photo!

St. Michael's Golden-Domed Monastery




St. Michael's Golden-Domed Monastery is a functioning monastery in Kiev. The monastery is located on the Western side of the Dnieper River. Originally built in the middle ages. There is a banner up on the entrance indicating 2008 is the 900th anniversary of its existence! The exterior of the structure was rebuilt in the Ukrainian Baroque style in the 18th century while the interior remained in its original Byzantine style. The cathedral was demolished by the Soviet authorities in the 1930s, but was recently reconstructed after Ukraine gained its independence in 1991.


Matrioshka Dolls

We visited a few places in Kiev together again today. I'll attach a few pictures of the places we visited. This is a picture of a street vendor we visited that was selling the traditional Russian and Ukraine Matrioshka Dolls. There are 5-20 dolls inside each other starting with a larger figure and going down to a very small wooden figure when you open them all up. There are hundreds of street vendors selling souvenirs.

Lexi and Natalie

Lexi and Natalie at the Friendship of Nations Arc. Natalie has been a tremendous help with Lexi. She is a terrific interpreter and has started teaching Lexi English as well. It will provide a good start for Lexi's experience at home when we'll have nobody to speak Russian with her!

Kiev Independence Square at night


I took these pictures last night while we were visiting Independence Square in downtown Kiev. It was a beautiful evening and thousands of people were outside enjoying the weather. I've been amazed at the number of people who are outside and moving around at any given time of the day. The subway metro system is FULL of people almost anytime we have used it. It's a fascinating system that runs at least 600-800 feet under the ground. It takes several minutes just to ride the escalators down to the entry point for the trains. The trains also run in each direction constantly. The most we've had to wait for a train is less than 2 minutes. They really know how to move people around the city!

Friday, October 3, 2008

Lexi and Todd

Natalie took this picture of us while we were visiting the Friednship of Nations Arc. Behind us is the Dnipro river and lots of apartments on the left bank of Kiev.

Friendship of Nations Arc

Friendship of Nations Arc A highly visible monument above the Dnipro River. This arch rises above this Soviet-era monument celebrating the joining of Ukraine and Russia in 1653 A.D.

Saint Sophia Cathedral in Kiev

I took this picture from the top of the 150 foot Bell Tower inside the cathedral grounds. This beautiful building was first started in the year 1020.

Sites of Kiev




We spent the afternoon walking around Kiev and seeing some beautiful sites. The top picture is an interesting building by the water front where we went for a boat ride. The middle picture is what they call "The Golden Gate" This fortified gate defended the city in the 12th century. The bottom picture is the Kiev Opera House built in the summer of 1867. There are several historic sites in Kiev all easily accessible via walking or the efficient metro system.


Thursday, October 2, 2008

Visa Approved!

Today we had our final interview with the US Embassy. They take time to ask both of us questions to make sure we're qualified as parents and Lexi is 100% committed to joining our family before they issue a visa to the United States. After our visit we were officially "approved"! That was the last step in the adoption process. Lexi becomes a United States citizen the moment we land in NYC on our way home. They gave me a sealed packet that has to be given to Immigration officials in New York City at the airport. I guess it contains all of the necessary paperwork to allow her entry into the country.

We celebrated by taking a boat ride on the Dnieper river. Kiev is located on both sides of the Dnieper River, which flows south through the city towards the Black Sea. This was the first time in her life she had ever been on a boat! She'll have a few more "firsts" ahead when we get her home.

Kiev City Golden Gate


Today we spent time walking around the city of Kiev visiting some of the famous sites. This is a picture of Lexi (that's what we plan to call Alexa) and I at the "Golden Gate" to the city. It's less than a block from our apartment.
This gateway was one of three constructed by Yaroslav the Wise, Prince of Kiev, in the mid-eleventh century. In 1982, the gate was completely reconstructed for the 1500th anniversary of Kiev. (that's a LONG time ago!) The top picture will help you see the actual size of the gate!



Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Passport, Visa and Medical exams

Early this morning Vladimir brought Alexa from Sumy to Kiev to complete her necessary medical examinations. An important part of adoption is having the parents certify that they know and understand the health of their child before the adoption is complete. They ran x-rays, blood tests and other important tests on Alexa for several hours this morning. Once complete, I was asked to join with the doctor as he signed all of the necessary documents and made sure I knew Alexa was in excellent health.

I've been incredibily impressed with some other Americans that I've met here who are adopting children with severe medical problems such as downs syndrome and cerebal palsy. I offered to hold a 3 year old girl this morning with cerebal palsy at the US Embassy so her adopting mother could do the extensive required paperwork. The little girl can't walk and won't go to any strangers so unfortunately I was not much help. The mother was here alone from South Carolina and was doing her best to complete all the paperwork alone. What a wonderful person she is to give this little girl a chance to have a family who will take care of her in spite of her physical handicap!

After we received the necessary medical checks we hustled over to the US Embassy where I filed the papers for Alexa's visa. We will go back again on Thursday for a final interview and hopefully the visa will be complete. Since Alexa is now 16 years old, the US does a complete background check before allowing her entry into the US. Sometimes that check takes a couple extra days.

We're getting closer!

Back in Kiev Ukraine



I'm back in Kiev as of Tuesday morning this week to complete the adoption process. Natalie picked me up at the airport and helped me get settled into my new apartment for this week in the downtown area of Kiev, a city with over 5 million people! It's a very busy city with far too many cars than than the roads are made to handle. So far I've experienced being stuck in traffic for hours, riding the underground Metro system (10 cents gets you anywhere in the city) and several city buses. It's a maze of millions of people.

These pictures were taken from the city center which is only a 5 minute walk from my apartment. Notice the McDonalds restaurant in the middle left of the bottom picture. That's the only US fast food place here and it's very popular even though it's very expensive for the average person to eat there.

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Time spent at the orphanage

Many have asked if we seen the Sveta which we hosted last fall. We talked with her at the orphanage and she is doing great and happy. She was a little tenative at first to see us but hugged us both. I think we mentioned before that she has spent the past 7 summers in France with a great little family which we have had contact with over email and they love her. They have a daughter her age and younger son and her desire is to finish school in Ukraine and be a part of their lives and we hope it works out for her. Tanya and Laina were also hosted this past fall and they are great friends to each other and darling girls. It was so fun to see all these kids again.

This has been an interesting journey for Todd and I as we feel things have turned out as they needed to. There have been many things happen along the way that have put us in the position to adopt Alexa and truly feel it is meant to be this way. I had a lot of concern before we came as to what would happen but because of Todds peaceful nature and encouragement from our kids it has been a great experience. I feel so peaceful and a great love for Alexa and very happy to have her be a part of our family.

Laina, Sveta and Tanya


Main entry to sumy Orphanage



The kids were out of school at 2:00 everyday when the families were able to go spend time there. They loved playing outside games and others would join in. They are quite structured there with school hours, snack time, homework hours back in the classroom and free time throughout the evening.

All the boys having fun



We spent some time at the orphanage with the other families there. This is also where Alexa spent 8 years even though she has now graduated from there. These are some of the children that were hosted a year ago and being adopted. The orphanage is set up more as a boarding school and even though it was old, there were grounds for the kids to play on, an apple orchard, small garden and a small river close by. The kids have teachers that care for them and have worked with them for many years.

Neil and Carolyn Milne - Great room mates and friends.


Last Sunday Branch Meeting

This is our last Sunday at the little branch. There were changes with the missionaries too so it was fun getting to meet some new elders. Todd was asked to speak along with Neil Milne (our room mate) and Tanya translated for them. Tanya was amazing with her English after spending just one year as an exchange student in the states. They both did a great job and it was fun understanding the meeting :)

This is the Milne family who is adopting Austin and the Rogers family who are adopting brothers Artem and Sasha. We all hosted children together this past year and have gone thru this journey together along with several other families. Its been great making friends along the way as have spent some time together.

Kent and Ari Rogers, their 2 new boys and the wonderful translators




Natasha, Tanya and Natalie

What would we have done without great translators? The process there went as smooth as possible because of them. We became great friends along the way. With several families there all at the same time, they were able to take care of all of us and it was fun getting to know them. It was hard for me to say goodbye knowing I wasn't going back but Todd would be the one. I have always disliked saying final goodbyes....easier to avoid them so we tried keeping it casual. How lucky we are for emails and such. Natalie has seen many adoptions the past years and knows the system well. Tanya and Natasha were newly hired because of the number of families but they were all professional. Tanya was only 18 and Natasha 25.

Our friend Sergey




It was hard to find many who were very friendly that wanted to talk to you while we were there but this gentlemen was very different. He was actually the bus driver who took us all to the river for the baptism we attended. Not a member of the church but loved the missionaries. He was so great! There was something about Todd he liked as he would grab him and talk away in russian....as if Todd understood! Next thing we know he is dialing someone on his phone and would hand the phone to Todd to talk. It was his daughter that lived in Kiev that spoke some English and wanted her to practice so he called her a few times. Then he called his son that lived somewhere else. He was so funny and we loved talking with him....mainly listening to him speaking Russian very fast like we understood. He asked Todd to call his daughter again back in Kiev when he returned. It was good to see someone full of life there.

Alexa has become great friends with Tonya and Natasha


In the air......again :)

Todd is on his way to bring Alexa back. I am at home waiting anxiously. With mixed emotions we have both been home the past week. It has been so great to be back at home with our family and all the great things about America but was hard leaving Alexa there even for the 10 days. Everyone is so excited to get her here. We have really missed her this week and have called a few times. We can tell she is working on her English already and sounded so cute on the phone as we said how are you and she responded...fine, thank you. How many 16 year olds respond like that :) Todd left yesterday for the long journey back to finish up the process and I have to say I'm a little jealous. Not for the journey back but to beable to be apart of the final leg. He promised to keep us updated! I keep thinking about how hard this could be for her to leave all she has known for the past 16 years to start new. We know how great it is to live here but a little unkown for her and to live in a different culture, a new language, new friends and family could feel pretty scary at 16. We learned that in just the two weeks spent in Sumy :) She gave us each a big hug as we promised to return in a week. She understands the process well as she has seen several friends be adopted over the past couple of years. She really is a sweetheart. We seen more of her personality come alive as we played ping pong. She is the girls champion at her school and really showed it to Todd who is quite good at it too. All together we hope she adjusts quickly as she has a very sweet but quiet disposition and we are excited! I know our children will be such a blessing in her life as siblings as they have been so supportive as always. We are so lucky....Thanks kids!!! We have watched the other blogs of friends and are so looking forward to getting together again as everyone completes their journey.

Monday, September 22, 2008

Back on US soil

The last day in sumy together we had a nice meal together abd played some card games. It was great fun. There are 5 families that are working towards leaving with their adopted children over the next week to 10 days. It's been fun sharing this experience together!!

We left around 4:30 am Monday morning towards the airport in Kiev. It was another 4+ hour journey because we hit the city right around rush hour. We made our flight ok but it was delayed and late getting into JFK. As a result we missed our connection to SLC and had to take the next flight 4 hours later putting us home around 11 pm tonight. We're writing this message by our gate here at JFK. If the next flight leaves and arrives on time it will be a 28 hour journey home :)

Gravesite visits



We invited Alexa and her sister Ira (her half sister, same mother) to show us where their mother and grandmother were buried in Sumy. We wanted to learn more about their family and hopefully hear some memories they had about their parents or grandparents. Alexa's parents lost their rights about 8 years ago. Her mother died about 4 years ago and her father apparently died not long after that. They're really not sure about their father since he's not been in their lives for many years.


Alexa's grandmother was the only person that visited her in the orphanage and that stopped after she passed away 3 and a half years ago. Alexa's teachers at school told us that she was a sweet lady who often mentioned that she hoped Alexa would find a home and family one day. Her grandmother had a heart condition and did what she could for the 2 girls. Alexa and Ira both had very tender feelings towards their grandmother and spoke very kindly of her.